How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

fpoHow To Win Friends and Influence People. Finished 11-17-15, rating 4.5/5, relationships, pub. 1936

You can go after the job you want…and get it! You can take the job you have…and improve it! You can take any situation you’re in…and make it work for you!

Since its release in 1936, How to Win Friends and Influence People has sold more than 15 million copies. Dale Carnegie’s first book is a timeless bestseller, packed with rock-solid advice that has carried thousands of now famous people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives.

As relevant as ever before, Dale Carnegie’s principles endure, and will help you achieve your maximum potential in the complex and competitive modern age.

Learn the six ways to make people like you, the twelve ways to win people to your way of thinking, and the nine ways to change people without arousing resentment.     from Goodreads

I’ve had an old copy of this book in my boxes for so many years, curious despite my distrust of anything that can be called self-help, but since I started a new way to choose my books last spring I’ve been picking up some titles that have languished for years. It helped that the library had the audio, so I both listened and read. My biggest takeaway from this book is that it is amazing how relevant this book published in 1936 still is.  Yes, it can be considered self-help (I loved this post from earlier this month about a woman with Aspergers reading this book for the first time) but I think it’s also a really interesting look at human psychology.

I don’t think following the tips in this book will make you a better person (on the contrary, being too much of a people pleaser can be a bad thing) but I do think that it delves into what makes people tick. I found it easy while listening to see my strengths and weaknesses and that was helpful to me.  I don’t plan on using this as a guidebook or anything but I do think it’s a worthwhile read.  And if you read the post I mentioned you can see how there are a lot of people who can still really benefit from this oldie.

 

Quiz/Survey/Giveaway RESULTS & WINNER

Thank you so much for participating in last week’s quiz! It was so much fun reading your answers and looking for duplicates.  Amazingly, even with 100 books to choose from there was always more than one person voting on a title.  Let’s take a look…

  1. FAVORITE FICTION TITLE – 2 people voted for To Kill a Mockingbird (Hannah & Carrie)
  2. FAVORITE NON FICTION TITLE – 5 people voted for The Bible (Nise, Hannah, Kay, Vicki, Jean), 2 people for Stories I Only Tell My Friends by Rob Lowe (Steph & Gina), and 2 people for The Hiding Place by Corrie ten Boom (Wendy & Carrie)
  3. LEAST FAVORITE BOOK – Wicked by Gregory Maguire (Kathy & Nise)
  4. & 5.FAVORITE COVERSfpo(Nise, Wendy, Leslie, Carrie, Jean) fpo(Nise, Michelle, Vicki) fpo(Hannah, Wendy, Jean) fpo(Kay, Gina)
6. BEST TITLE – The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian by Sherman Alexie (Kathy, Nise,  Hannah, Vicki)
7. FAVORITE AUTHOR – Jane Austen (Steph, Wendy, Carrie) AND Stephen King (Michelle, Leslie, Vicki)
8. FAVORITE CHARACTER – Scout Finch from To Kill A Mockingbird ( Kathy, Hannah, Steph)
9. TITLE YOU’VE NEVER HEARD OF – A Day No Pigs Would Die (Nise, Wendy, Jean), The Man Who Ate a 747 by Ben Sherwood (Kathy, Hannah), Mindhunter:Inside the FBI’s Elite Serial Crime Unit (Kay, Carrie)

10. You all chose different books to win!IMG_5151and the winner is…..Gina from Book Dragon’s Lair!  She’ll be receiveing a copy of The Shadow of the Wind 🙂 

I’m taking next week off, but we’ll be back before the end of the year to finish out this round of quizzes.

Goodnight June by Sarah Jio

fpoGoodnight June. Finished audio 11-20-15, rating 4.25/5, fiction, pub. 2014

Unabridged audio read by Katherine Kellgren. 8.5 hours.

Goodnight Moon is an adored childhood classic, but its real origins are lost to history. In Goodnight June, Sarah Jio offers a suspenseful and heartfelt take on how the “great green room” might have come to be.

June Andersen is professionally successful, but her personal life is marred by unhappiness. Unexpectedly, she is called to settle her great-aunt Ruby’s estate and determine the fate of Bluebird Books, the children’s bookstore Ruby founded in the 1940s. Amidst the store’s papers, June stumbles upon letters between her great-aunt and the late Margaret Wise Brown—and steps into the pages of American literature.

This was a sweet, charming story of second chances. Jane, a NYC banker, has all of the professional success she could ever want and yet when her aunt’s bookstore comes into her possession she realizes that so much has been missing.  She goes home to Seattle to confront the life she ran away from and little by little her resistance fades.

Most of us love bookstores (why would you be reading this otherwise?) so this story is one easy to fall in love with since it full of books, dreams and history.  I would love to inherit a children’s bookstore like Bluebird Books!  And this isn’t just any bookstore, it has hosted many an author and wealthy patron.  Jane finds that her Aunt Ruby has left her a scavenger hunt to find the answers to things that she hadn’t even thought to ask.  How did her Aunt Ruby know Margaret Wise Brown and did her aunt really contribute to Goodnight Moon?

There was so much to like about this book, even if you aren’t a fan of the children’s classic Goodnight Moon (one of the beloved classics I’ve never cared for (gasp!!)).  There were so many strong, flawed, independent women and I was rooting for them all.

I did feel that it was too simplistic in a few places, but I still really liked it.

 

 

Mailbox Monday – December14 – Jane Austen fans will appreciate

mmb-300x282Mailbox Monday is the gathering place for readers to share the books that came in their mailbox during the last week.Warning: Mailbox Monday can lead to envy, toppling TBR piles and humongous wish lists.

On Saturday we had my family Christmas and I received the best, most thoughtful gift from my Aunt Betty.  pp1pp2pp3

My great-aunt Mary was an independent woman who never married and she loved books as much as I do.  This 1919 edition of Pride & Prejudice is the one that she used in high school!  There are a few homework assignments and notes sprinkled throughout.  I love it and love that my Aunt Betty (a retired elementary school librarian) chose me to give it a new life.

What book is most special in your library?

Shattered by Dean Koontz

fpoShattered. Finished 12-5-15, rating 3/5. fiction suspense, 289 pages, pub. 1973

The van was in back of them again. Closer this time. There could be no mistake–they were being followed.

RUN… OR DIE

But why? The question kept nagging at Alex and Colin as they left Philadelphia behind and sped toward their new home in San Francisco. Courtney would be waiting for the, ready to begin a wonderful new life with her husband, her brother…

RUN… OR DIE

Now, someone else is driving cross-country to see Courtney, too. Someone whose brain is rotting inside. Someone who knows their route, their stops, even their destination.     

RUN… OR DIE

He’s got an ax.     from Goodreads

I like Koontz but haven’t read too many of his older titles.  Somehow this one ended up in Mt. TBR and I wanted something quick, so I picked it up and read it in about a day.  Aside from it being quite dated – which felt quaint, even when a psycho was wielding an axe – it was fun.

Alex and Colin were pretty fleshed out characters for such a short book. I liked their relationship and the bonding road trip of the new family they were making with Courtney.  Even though this was written over 40 years ago it seemed longer.  It’s amazing how technology has really left stories like this in the dust. Now there would be pics posted on social media and to the police of the offending man.

I liked it well enough but wouldn’t go out of my way to recommend it.

 

Quiz/Survey/Giveaway

I revamped my favorite 100 book list and I’m pretty sure I hate it, BUT before I scrap it again I want you all to use the books on the list to fill out the following questions.  Everyone gets points for every question answered AND extra points if your answer matches anyone else’s.  PLUS I’M GIVING AWAY ONE OF MY FAVORITES JUST IN TIME FOR THE HOLIDAY SEASON!

Gage will randomly draw a winner from every one who participates this week!  Good luck 🙂

No Googling or looking at other commenter answers.  Yes, we’re going by the honor system 🙂  Play every week or just one time, you are always welcome 🙂  It only takes once to be eligible for a prize. 

You must use this list for the answers. YOU ARE ANSWERING THESE QUESTIONS FOR YOURSELF.

  1.  You Favorite fiction book
  2. Your Favorite non fiction book
  3. Your Least favorite book
  4. Your Favorite Cover
  5. Your Second favorite cover 🙂
  6. Your Best title
  7. Your Favorite author
  8. Your Favorite character
  9. One you’ve never heard of
  10. The one you’d like to win

The Splendour Falls by Susanna Kearsley – love this author!

fpoThe Splendour Falls. Finished 11-24-15, rating 4.25/5. 380 pages, pub. 1995

Chinon-chateau of legend, steeped in the history of France and England. It is to Chinon that Emily goes on a long-awaited holiday, to meet her charming but unreliable cousin, Harry. Harry wanted to explore the old town and the castle, where Queen Isabelle, child bride of King John, had withstood the siege of Chinon many centuries ago, and where, according to legend, she hid her casket of jewels. But when Emily arrives at her hotel she finds that Harry has disappeared, and as she tries to find him she becomes involved with some of the other guests and learns of a mystery dating from the German occupation during the Second World War. Another Isabelle, a chambermaid at the hotel, fell in love with a German soldier, with tragic results.

Emily becomes increasingly aware of strange tensions, old enmities and new loves; as she explores the city, with its labyrinthine dungeons and tunnels and its ancient secrets, she comes ever closer to the mystery of what happened to both the Isabelles of Chinon’s history. from Goodreads

Kearsley has officially become a comfort read for me.  This was my third read from her and each of them has left me satisfied and happy.  There is always a back story that takes place in another time that connects with the current story in some way.  This book had less of the back story, which I think it suffered for, but the mystery, romance, and yes, evil all combined to make this a fun read.  I didn’t think it was as good as the other two, but this is an earlier work of hers and it’s still good.

The essence of the setting is always so easily felt and her writing is so accessible that once I get started I find it hard to put down.  There were so many potential bad guys in this one that I didn’t really have and handle on it until late in the game, but those smarter than I probably figured it out much sooner.

If you love historical intrigue with a dash of modern day romance I highly recommend Kearsley.

Last Night’s Reading by Kate Gavino

Last Night's Reading: Illustrated Encounters with Extraordinary AuthorsLast Night’s Reading. Finished 11-27-15, rating 5/5, graphic non-fiction, 160 pages, pub. 2015

Why do we go to book readings? For a chance to see the authors we love come to life off the page, answering our questions and proving to be the brilliant, witty people we catch glimpses of through their work. Illustrator Kate Gavino captures the wonder of this experience firsthand. At every reading she attends, Kate hand-letters the event’s most memorable quote alongside a charming portrait of the author. In Last Night’s Reading, Kate takes us on her journey through the literary world, sharing illustrated insight from more than one hundred of today’s greatest writers—including Zadie Smith, Junot Diaz, Lev Grossman, Elizabeth Gilbert, and many more—on topics ranging from friendship and humor to creativity and identity. A celebration of authors, reading, and bookstores, this delightful collection is an advice book like no other and a love letter to the joy of seeing your favorite author up close and personal.  from Goodreads

What a delightful little book!  This was just released at the end of October so when I picked it up at the bookstore I hadn’t heard anything about it. The author loves to attend author events in the New York City area, draw the authors and make notes on what they say. She drew this charming book and included her story interspersed with quotes and sketches of the authors she met.

It’s beautifully made and a smaller size making it a perfect gift, either for yourself or a friend.  It’s inspiring and will make you want to attend every author signing you can.  In case you can’t tell, I love it!

You can check out her tumblr or instagram for some of her work.

http://lastnightsreading.tumblr.com/archive

https://www.instagram.com/lastnightsreading/?hl=en

 

Just Ask the Universe and Keep Calm and Ask On by Michael Samuels

fpoJust Ask the Universe. Finished 5-7-15, self-help, 119 pages, pub. 2011

Just Ask the Universe is a realistic guide to personal development. By creating a blueprint for self-growth and commanding your subconscious mind, the Universe will manifest all your dreams. For over two decades, Michael Samuels has studied and methodically tested hundreds of books on self-improvement, spirituality, and the metaphysical. Just Ask the Universe accumulates the wisdom from “thought teachers” like: Wallace Wattles, Anthony Robbins, Rhonda Byrne, Joseph Murphy, Robert Collier, and Napoleon Hill, and compiles it under one unified lesson: if your thoughts are clear and in harmony with your mind and the truth of your surroundings, your life can be filled with all the richness the Universe has to offer. As a culmination from these teachings, Michael will show you how to use simple and fun techniques to create a more desirable future. This approach, coupled with real-life stories, will teach you how to achieve personal power to overcome any barrier.   from Goodreads

Hm. I don’t really read these types of books but the author sent it and it was short enough to pick up.  There isn’t anything bad about this book (I like the way he made personal religious beliefs, whatever they are, fit with his vision) but there wasn’t anything great about it either. I did the ‘want’ exercises and if all 60 things come true then I will come back and revise my rating!

It was too short and too repetitive, but the ideas were good. I also think maybe there weren’t enough of them. The book did leave me in a good, happy place.

 

 

fpoKeep Calm and Ask On. Finished 12-4-15, rating 1.5/5, self-help, 108 pages, pub. 2014

Hot off the heels of his international best seller “Just Ask the Universe” and his critically acclaimed follow up “The Universe-ity”, Michael Samuels returns with a fun and witty practical manual called “Keep Calm and Ask On: A No-Nonsense Guide to Fulfilling Your Dreams.” With a few easy and entertaining steps, Samuels will inspire you that living the life of your dreams is not all that hard. It’s actually easier than you think. He will show you how to further develop your “I want” list to make your goals become a reality. He will also show how music and laughter are the two keys to unlocking a greater life. Samuels has studied the teachings of the greats just to pass the word around in a simple and no-frills manner. This is not some drawn-out, monotonous Law of Attraction book that only teaches you a small piece of the subconscious puzzle. The answers are here and Samuels did the research to give you the total picture with no hype or tricks. If you want something, the universe will deliver! Just remember to keep calm and ask on…   from Goodreads

Having read his first one in the spring and not hating it I picked this one up so I could maybe reach my reading goal by the end of the year (short is good).  Unfortunately, this continuation on the law of attraction (think it and it will come true) that he started in the first book suffered from a meandering writing style that essentially only added two new things to the first book – make a playlist for your life EVERY SEASON and laugh a lot.  There I saved you  the hour or so it would take you to read it.

 

 

Shatter by Michael Robotham

fpoShatter. Finished 11-10-15, rating 4.25/5, thriller, 433 pages, pub. 2008

Book 3 of the Jospeh O’Laughlin series

Joe O’Loughlin is in familiar territorystanding on a bridge high above a flooded gorge, trying to stop a distraught woman from jumping. “You don’t understand,” she whispers, and lets go. Joe is haunted by his failure to save the woman, until her teenage daughter finds him and reveals that her mother would never have committed suicidenot like that. She was terrified of heights.

What could have driven her to commit such a desperate act? Whose voice? What evil?

Having devoted his career to repairing damaged minds, Joe must now confront an adversary who tears them apart. With pitch-perfect dialogue, believable characters, and astonishingly unpredictable plot twists, Shatter is guaranteed to keep even the most avid thriller readers riveted long into the night.

I haven’t read the first 2 books of this series, but I had no problem jumping in and not only liking the action but also the layered family history.  I liked it enough to add the next in the series to my reading list.

What set this apart from other series, especially thrillers, is that the hero is struggling with a debilitating disease, Parkinson’s.  Because of that and stress from earlier cases he and his family are living in Somerset, outside of London, and he is teaching part-time at a nearby university.  As a clinical psychologist, when the police come to the school looking for someone to talk down a potential jumper on a bridge, he is the obvious choice. Joe is devastated when he can’t save the troubled woman and decides to look into it a little more after talking to the woman’s daughter. What he finds has him leaning on the police to find the boogeyman who is making women kill themselves without even lifting a finger.

This was good, with lots of twists and plenty of family drama. The fact that these women were killing themselves just by listening to someone on a phone was something new and because of it, it felt fresh and different.  The way the daughters acted afterward felt off to me, but that was my only complaint.  I’m looking forward to seeing what happens to Joe next!