How Do I Say Goodbye by Dean Lewis made me cry when I heard it the first time. It also hits a little harder now. My dad died suddenly a week before Thanksgiving. I’ve always called him an energizer bunny or said he had nine lives, but at 78 his time came. He was my protector, provider, and role model growing up. He was loud, a jokester, and always lending a helping hand. He took me on trips, accepted my friends as family, and showed me that book smart wasn’t the only kind there was. I hold that view of him while still seeing the complicated relationship we were in these past ten years. I’ve already felt levels of grief over the loss of who we were making this sudden end feel not quite real.
The holidays were spent on the road traveling home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, the Memorial, and a wedding. A busy time spent with family, the people who knew and loved him. It was exactly what we, my mom and Jason and Gage, needed. Now the quiet of January looms.
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Really sorry to hear about your dad. At 76, we are seeing a lot of loss too. 3 of our very close friends, along with a cousin and mentor, have passed away. Our generation is hitting an age where there is a lot more loss and sadness.
Again, very sorry for your loss.
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Stacy : Sorry to hear about the passing of your father. It is never losing a parent. My father died at 46 . My sister died in December of 2023. My mother died more than 10 years ago. My entire family is my wife and son and a few scattered cousins. Like you I miss the occasional phone call and holiday gatherings. I will pray for you and your family.
Stacy, I too am sorry to hear about the sudden passing of your Dad. It’s a tough time for sure and when it comes close to a holiday season – well, it’s a little harder. My Dad passed on Thanksgiving Day a number of years ago, but I honestly have a hard time remember the actual number of the November date. Thanksgiving does shuffle around. Anyway, for me, it was Thanksgiving. Glad you and Jason and Gage got to go and spend time with your family. I will keep you in my prayers and hope that this season of your life isn’t too long. Like the two commenters above, we are beginning to have friends have tough health issues or pass away. And, if our friends do still have either of their parents, they are dealing with lots of health issues there. My mother-in-law is 91 and we were happy to still have her and my husband’s stepdad for Christmas this year. Take care, dear friend! Hope to connect with you in 2026. Wishing you peace…