This Week – Busy, Busy

It’s been a busy two weeks. I took a road trip with a friend, celebrated my parent’s 55th anniversary, my dad’s 77th birthday, sat through my son’s IEP meeting and helped with a luncheon at his school, and even did a minimal amount of planning for an upcoming trip and possible high schools for the boy. Gage had a day off of school and I took him with me to sort donations at the library and he worked hard without complaint! 

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January Favorites

Books Finished

The Talk by Darrin Bell. 5/5 stars, Graphic Memoirs, 352 pages, 2023

This graphic memoir is SO good!

Bell has a white mother and black father and it’s his mother who is the one to first tell him that when world will see him as different. She embarrasses him when she causes a scene calling out bias and yet his father remains largely silent when he needs to hear from him the most. This book starts when he is 6 and has a run in with police and they take his water gun and ends after the George Floyd murder when he has to decide if it’s the right time to have the talk about race with his own young son.

Bell was the first Black editorial cartoonist to win the Pulitzer Prize. Highly recommend. Its’s engaging, touching, honest, brave.

Navigating Autism: 9 Mindsets For Helping Kids on the Spectrum by Temple Grandin and Debra Moore. 4/5 stars, Autism, 384 pages, 2021.

This book manages to do many things well. It will benefit parents, teachers, or anyone who knows or works with a kid with an autism diagnosis. In the 9 mindsets it also has something for every stage of the child, from child to older teen. I especially like the section on the medical comorbidities, too often treating the medical issues is completely overlooked.

Then Came You by Lisa Kleypas. 4.5/5 stars, Historical Romance, 371 pages, 1993

I loved this book, but both main characters did some horrific things to each other. I will read and most likely love anything she writes.

Michelle Obama: Her Essential Wisdom. 4/5 stars. Quotes, 128 pages, 2019

“That is the power of our differences to make us smarter and more creative. And that is how all those infusions of new cultures and ideas, generation after generation, created the matchless alchemy of our melting pot and helped us build the strongest, most vibrant, most prosperous nation on the planet, right here.”

The Menopause Manifesto by Dr. Jen Gunter. 4/5 stars, Menopause, 400 pages, 2021

I’m not in menopause, yet, but I am of a certain age so I wanted to prepare myself. In many ways I wish I hadn’t 🤣. I wish I could say reading this made me feel empowered, but mostly it just depressed me. I’m glad I read it and I’m glad I’m done reading it. I took some useable knowledge and am better off for it. Make sure you’re taking extra calcium ladies!

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Movies

On my weekend road trip we went to the grand old theater in town and finally saw Killers of the Flower Moon. Yes, it was 3 1/2 hours and I had to get up for a 10 minutes break in the middle, but I really liked it. Lily Gladstone was phenomenal. 

We watched Little Italy on Netflix. It had a fun cast and some laughs.

Plans for the Weekend

The SUPERBOWL!

January Favorites

I read 13 books this month, this seems so low compared to the last few years! 

4 nonfiction, 3 historical romances, 2 kids nonfiction, 2 thrillers, 1 romance, 1 YA romance

I’ve been writing about each one in my weekly updates, so let’s just showcase the extra special ones with links to my thoughts.

The Light We Carry by Michelle Obama. 4.25 stars. Memoir/Self-help, 319 pages, 2022

The Running Grave by Robert Galbraith 4.5 stars, Thriller/Private Detective Mystery, 960 pages, 2023. Link to my post on this series.

The Miracle Seed by Martin Lemelman. 4.5 stars, Nonfiction Graphic Novel for Kids, 80 pages, 2023.

Check & Mate by Ali Hazelwood. 4.5 stars, YA Romance, 352 pages, 2023.

Movies

I only watched 5 movies this month, but liked them all! Two Stood out as favorites…

The Hunger Games: The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes, 2023

Wonka, 2023

Streaming

We finished 2 shows and liked them both, both great thrillers based on books I’ve read!

Reacher, season 2. 2022. On Amazon. Based on the Lee Child series.

Fool Me Once, 2023. On Netflix. Based on the Harlan Coben book.

Any common favorites? What was the favorite thing you read or watched this month?

This Week – Purple Belt

Gage earned his purple belt in tae kwon do this week, a proud moment for me. He complains about having to go twice a week, but on Tuesday right before class he said he thought there was a belt test this week and he wanted to make sure he did it. While the notice was late, his taking the initiative was new. Jason and I don’t go in to his classes, so unless he tells us we have no idea what goes on there and with ADHD it’s a struggle for him to remember sometimes. So progress being made all around. 

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I wrote up my thoughts on The Light We Carry by Michelle Obama. I have so much respect for that woman.

Books Finished

See my thoughts here.

An English Bride in Scotland by Lynsay Sands. 3.5 stars, historical romance, 346 pages, 2013. This has a common enough plot, a Scottish laird must marry an English woman. There is a sweet heroine and kind hero and a bit of a mystery that provided a worthy bad guy to spice things up. Although there was also spice in the bedroom…and barn…and by the river… This was the first in a series I’m looking forward to reading more.

The Art of Sinning by Sabrina Jeffries. 3 stars, historical fiction, 400 pages, 2015. This English historical has an American artist in London wanting to use Lady Yvette as his muse. She’s more than willing. It’s spicy and there’s plenty of character setup for the next 4 books in the series. It was good, but I’m not sure I care enough to seek the rest out.

I don’t know why I’m on a romance bender, but I refuse to feel bad about it. 

10 books read so far this year.

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Movies

Anyone But You, 2023. I had a morning to myself this week with no commitments and decided to go to the theater and watch something I couldn’t imagine my friends or husband wanting to see. I love romcoms and this one was solid. There was LOTS of skin. Have you ever gone to the movies by yourself? It’s been years since I’ve done this.I was the only one in the theater and that was pretty cool.

Love at First Sight, 2023. Every time I logged into Netflix it recommended this movie to me so when I woke up too early on Saturday and didn’t want to get out of bed I watched it. It’s a cute one about fate and finding someone to hold your hand through the tough times. I loved the growth of both characters and the quirkiness of the storytelling.

Streaming

I’ve read all of Harlan Coben’s books and have seen all of the adaptations. This was one of the better ones. As with all of Coben’s thrillers, twists abound and all is not as it seems. Eight episodes.

Plans for the Weekend

Well, it’s after 10 so the weekend is almost over, but I do have to take a breakfast casserole and 2 dozen muffins to Gage’s school for a special teachers breakfast in the morning and although the muffins are baked I still need to prep the casserole for morning. I best get to it!

Linking up with the Sunday Salon.

The Light We Carry by Michelle Obama

The Light We Carry by Michelle Obama. 4.25 stars. Memoir/Self-help, 319 pages, 2022

Michelle Obama offers readers a series of fresh stories and insightful reflections on change, challenge, and power, including her belief that when we light up for others, we can illuminate the richness and potential of the world around us, discovering deeper truths and new pathways for progress. Drawing from her experiences as a mother, daughter, spouse, friend, and First Lady, she shares the habits and principles she has developed to successfully adapt to change and overcome various obstacles–the earned wisdom that helps her continue to “become.” She details her most valuable practices, like “starting kind,” “going high,” and assembling a “kitchen table” of trusted friends and mentors. With trademark humor, candor, and compassion, she also explores issues connected to race, gender, and visibility, encouraging readers to work through fear, find strength in community, and live with boldness. (from Goodreads)

Michelle’s memoir Becoming is one of my favorites. If you haven’t read it, you should. This book shares new stories, offers advice, and addresses the ‘go high’ vision and what it means. 

It didn’t pack the same emotional punch of her first book, but there were parts I really loved. I loved the section on her relationship with Barack, especially that first trip to Hawaii to meet his family. I love her honesty and the way that she never puts him on a pedestal. Through her we see the real him. I love this quote, “Any long-term partnership really is an act of stubborn faith.” This spoke to me because I often speak of my own marriage this way.

The last few sections about how she was portrayed in right wing press and her now famous call to ‘Go High” were my favorites. We are so lucky to have had her as First Lady and to have her now encouraging us all to do the work. As many like to say, freedom isn’t free, and if we want a better country we have to be better citizens. I’m going to leave you with a few of the quotes I write in my journal. 

“If you keep your children from feeling fear, you’re essentially keeping them from feeling competence.”

“We’re alone, each of us. That’s the ache of being human.”

“Any time we grip hands with another soul and recognize some piece of the story they’re trying to tell, we are acknowledging and affirming two truths at once: We’re lonely and yet we’re not alone.”

“Going high is not just about what happens on a single day, or a month, or inside one election cycle either. It happens over the course of a lifetime, the course of a generation, Going high is demonstrative, a commitment to showing your children, your friends, your colleagues, and your community what it takes to live with love and decency. Because in the end, at least in my experience, what you put out for others- whether it’s hope or hatred- will only create more of the same.”

A Favorite Series – Cormoran Strike by Robert Galbraith

Like most readers of Harry Potter, I love JK Rowling books and when I started seeing the reviews for this series I knew I’d have to give her a post HP chance to win me over.  And she did. I love this series.

I love Cormoran Strike. I loved him in the first of the series and I’ve loved him in every one since.  He’s smart, grumpy and a hero who came back to London after losing a foot in Afghanistan.  He could have milked the media because of his being the (illegitimate) son of a famous rock star, but he chose, instead, to live a life of purpose. He’s a bit of a mess but an honest and earnest one.  He and his partner Robin’s relationship is the heart and soul of this this series.

I love the narration by Robert Glenister. He became Strike for me so I’ve listened to all 7 books (so far) on audio. I totally recommend trying the first one and seeing if you like it.

Read if you like– well plotted thrillers, disability front and center, the possibility of a workplace romance, grouchy yet smart private detectives, big big books, or mysteries set in London.

I do think that you need to read these in order to appreciate them.

#1 The Cuckoo’s Calling

#2 The Silkworm

#3 Career of Evil

#4 Lethal White

#5 Troubled Blood

#6 The Ink Black Heart

#7 The Running Grave

Eagerly awaiting more in the series!

Any other Cormoran Strike fans out there?

The Girl with All the Gifts by MR Carey

The Girl with All the Gifts. 4.25/5. Apocalyptic horror thriller?. 462 pages, 2014

Let’s talk about the 2014 The Girl With All the Gifts. This is an apocalyptic horror story, as far as I can say. We start with Melanie, a ten-year-old kept locked and chained unless during the week when she has class with other kids just like her. The doctor wants to slice her open, the sergeant is happy to let that happen, and the teacher just loves her the best she can.

I don’t read a lot of this genre, but I got sucked into this one and I’m so happy I picked it up. I loved the ending which took it to the next level. There’s a second book that I might check out, but it takes place before this book and I’m not sure I’m curious enough.

Do you like these types of horror/apocalypse/thriller type of books? Think Justin Cronin, Neil Gaiman, Dean Koontz.

Chapter 45

“What she thinks is: this could have been me. Why not? A real girl, in a real house, with a mother and a father and a brother and a sister and an aunt and an uncle and a nephew and a niece and a cousin and all those other words for the map of people who love each other and stay together. The map called family.

Growing up and growing old. Playing. Exploring. Like Pooh and Piglet. And then like the Famous Five. And then like Heidi and Anne of Green Gables. And then like Pandora, opening the great big box of the world and not being afraid, not even caring whether what’s inside is good or bad. Because it’s both. Everything is always both.

But you have to open it to find that out.”

A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness, illustrated by

A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness, illustrated by Jim, Kay, story inspired by Siobhan Dowd. 4.5 stars, middle grade fiction, 206 pages, 2011

An unflinching, darkly funny, and deeply moving story of a boy, his seriously ill mother, and an unexpected monstrous visitor.

At seven minutes past midnight, thirteen-year-old Conor wakes to find a monster outside his bedroom window. But it isn’t the monster Conor’s been expecting– he’s been expecting the one from his nightmare, the nightmare he’s had nearly every night since his mother started her treatments. The monster in his backyard is different. It’s ancient. And wild. And it wants something from Conor. Something terrible and dangerous. It wants the truth. From the final idea of award-winning author Siobhan Dowd– whose premature death from cancer prevented her from writing it herself– Patrick Ness has spun a haunting and darkly funny novel of mischief, loss, and monsters both real and imagined. from Goodreads

If I know a book will likely make me cry, more often than not, I’ll skip it. Plenty of things to cry about in real life, I do not need to be sobbing when reading fiction.

This book was so good I didn’t even mind that it made me cry twice. Not just tears in my eyes, but having to close the book and grab some tissues. I can only speak to this illustrated version. The fantastic illustrations really added another layer to this story for me. They created just the the right amount of darkness and terror needed.

Conor’s mom has been sick awhile and he’s having trouble at school. When a monster appears he’s scared, but nothing can be as scary as his nightly nightmare. The monster tells his stories and Conor’s life continues to get worse.

This is a kids book, but it goes to dark places. I don’t want to give anything away, but there’s so much to say, but I don’t want to say all of the spoilery things.

Have you read it? I highly recommend, but would read it first before sharing it with your child. As a mom you want to be prepared to discuss.


“There is not always a good guy. Nor is there always a bad one. Most people are somewhere in between.”

Stories are wild creatures, the monster said. When you let them loose, who knows what havoc they might wreak?

“Your mind will believe comforting lies while also knowing the painful truths that make those lies necessary. And your mind will punish you for believing both.”

“Conor was no longer invisible. They all saw him now.
But he was further away than ever.”

Following the Path: The Search for a Life of Passion, Purpose, and Joy by Joan Chittister

Following the Path by Joan Chittister. 4.5/5 stars, Inspirational, 192 pages, 2012

This book is meant to give someone in the process of making a life decision at any age—in early adulthood, at the point of middle-age change and later, when we find ourselves at the crossroads without a name—some ideas against which to pit their own minds, their own circumstances. Its purpose, as they wrestle with the process of trying to find and follow their own special call at this new stage of life, is to both provoke thinking and to clarify it. —Joan Chittister
 
In our modern and mobile society, the range of answers to the questions “What am I supposed to do with my life?” and “How do I know when I’ve found my purpose?” can seem endless and overwhelming. Following the Path by Sister Joan brings the insights of her years of teaching and contemplation to bear on this issue, providing readers with a new way forward. Through her examination of spiritual calling and gifts, change and discernment, she leads readers home to the place where, finally, we know we fit, where we are the fullest of ourselves and a gift to the world, a timely and much needed message that many will be happy to hear.

from Goodreads

I loved it. I always get something I need out of Joan Chittister’s books and this one was perfect for me during this transitional time of Gage going back to school after 3 years of homeschooling. When you’re at a crossroads, or even at a place where you’re acknowledging that there’s something unfinished in you, this is a nice read. I read a chapter every morning for a few weeks and it was a nice way to start the day. If any of these quotes resonate with you, get your hands on the book.

“We are all called, in some form and fashion, to give ourselves away so that tomorrow can be better than yesterday for many. We are all called to be reckless, intrepid, conscious philanthropists of the world to come.”

“But it is in our giftedness that our future lies. To be really happy, we must either follow our gifts or find our gifts. Otherwise we run the risk of going to our graves only half alive.”

“Aristotle, the great philosopher of personal development, said happiness depended on developing ourselves to our fullest potential. On becoming the best self we can possibly be…he said happiness depended on our commitment and involvement in ‘virtuous activity.’ In doing good…it’s about doing something that makes the world a better place to be…What fills our heart with happiness, ironically enough, is not what we get out of the world; it’s what we put into it.”

“Enjoyment and happiness are not synonyms. Enjoyment is, at best, an answer to the rigors of routine, it is not the abiding sense of a life we’ll live. That comes with having lived life well at every level and to the very heart of its ultimate meaning.”

“The more equipped I am to distinguish the me I want to be from the me everybody else wants me to be, the more likely I am to become it.”

“What other people require of us leads us to create the masks we present to the world.”

“At the end of the day, at the end of every decision, the measurement criteria must always be whether what I am doing is serving my false self or my true self.”

“Unless I am capable of letting go of the security level to which I have become accustomed, unless I am ready to begin again, the lack of a sense of meaning in the here and now that plagues us with the grace of doubt will die in the wind.”

Hello Stranger by Katherine Center

Hello Stranger by Katherine Center. 4.25 stars. Romance. 323 pages, 2023

Sadie Montgomery never saw what was coming . . . Literally! One minute she’s celebrating the biggest achievement of her life—placing as a finalist in the North American Portrait Society competition—the next, she’s lying in a hospital bed diagnosed with a “probably temporary” condition known as face blindness. She can see, but every face she looks at is now a jumbled puzzle of disconnected features. Imagine trying to read a book upside down and in another language. This is Sadie’s new reality with every face she sees.

But, as she struggles to cope, hang on to her artistic dream, work through major family issues, and take care of her beloved dog, Peanut, she falls into—love? Lust? A temporary obsession to distract from the real problems in her life?—with not one man but two very different ones. The timing couldn’t be worse.

from Goodreads

Hello Stranger is the latest feel good novel by Katherine Center. Sadie is an artist in her 20s living in a not-fit-to-rent apartment on a dime. She’s just reached the finals of a prestigious portrait competition, when an accident and subsequent surgery cause prosopagnodia, an inability to ‘see’ faces.

Sadie’s family story was the most moving part of the story for me. Her mom was gone, and she had an evil stepmother and stepsister to make her miserable while her father looked away. Needless to say, I was rooting hard for Sadie.

There was a love interest or two, a loyal best friend, and the realities of her new life with face blindness. This novel was warm and fuzzy in all the right places, while also letting real life shine through.

I loved it. There were, perhaps, one or two more coincidences than necessary, but at the end I was left feeling happy and satisfied.

Have you read a book by Katherine Center? Are they great?

“The fact that you don’t want me to help you really makes me want to help you.”
“That sounds like a you problem.”

The Enchanted Hacienda

The Enchanted Hacienda by JC Cervantes. 4.5 stars. Magical realism. 368 pages, 2023

I’m a sucker for all things magical realism. This was the perfect book at the perfect time. I love when that happens! It was magical, romantic, and fun.

The Estrada women are tied to their Mexican flower farm. Each one of them, for generations, has been born with special powers and the ability to help others through spells, like erasing memories or bonding to another person. Harlow didn’t have any such gift and always felt like the odd one out. When she goes home to regroup after a breakup she finds the magic she’s been looking for her whole life.

There are lots of women in this family and something tells me we might see more of these women in the future. I can’t wait!

This was one of three books in my quarterly TBR box from Book Riot and the second I’ve read so far. I always like care they use when choosing my books and, of course, I love the element of surprise that the box brings when I see it on my doorstep.